Wednesday, 5 October 2016

Agony of a craving mother

Agony of a craving mother
Agony of a woman undergoing infertility treatment
“I have tried each and every possible medicine on my feeble body despite of all the scary contradictions written on the leaflet. I left my job to reduce stress, I left eating all the food I loved as they say that heavy weight reduces the possibility, I forgot how to live just for you, waiting for you to show up in my uninhabited womb and give me that prodigious feeling of motherhood, that stunning, beautiful emotion which every woman yearns to feel at least once in her life. But you never even looked at me, you tiny stubborn embryo!  Your mom has been going through a hell lot of suffering but they’ll all vanish in a second once you decide to come in her life. I’m worn-out of going through that same trauma, same torture every month, same routine of seeing all my hopes smashed to smithereens. My dear baby, please choose to give me the pleasure of being your mother. I swear I would love you more than anyone else in the world.”
These are the excerpts from the diary of Gina*(taken with her permission) who has been going through infertility treatment since last 4 years and is now dragging herself into the vicious cycle of depression with every passing day. Her faith and strong optimistic nature is all that has allowed her to come this far. But no matter how strong you are, it is understandable that moments of despair and gloom come into the life of such couples sporadically.
Fortunately, nowadays our medical science has progressed so much that all kinds of treatment options are available across the counter and infertility is no longer an inexplicable problem. Thus, hope and patience is the key to the door of beatitude and contentment. The even-steven prospect of all the efforts going futile is the biggest fear of the couple, especially the mother as she starts holding herself responsible for all the miseries.
But, the foremost important thing to be remembered while going through the treatment is to keep oneself emotionally as well as physically healthy and strong. The problem of infertility is so common these days due to our sedentary and desk-bound lifestyle that no one is actually responsible for it. What is to be kept in mind is that despite of our extremely busy routines, it is always advised to spend at least 30-45 minutes out of the 24 hours for physical activity. There should be an inclusion of meditation and breathing exercises also for a peaceful and healthy mind. This would swipe away all the negativity and apprehensiveness from the mind giving it a fresh energy for a fresh start. Also, the diet should include lots of fluids and a colorful bowl of fruits. Keeping a tab on the health of your mind-body-soul is the best way to maximize the success of any treatment.                

*name changed on request.

This Blog is Authored By Charu Agarwal 

Charu Agarwal is a holistic health guide and life coach. She has done masters in Clinical Psychology and is a certified Clinical Hypnotherapist from California Hypnosis Institute, USA. She has also completed an online course in Psychological First Aid from John Hopkins University and on Child Health & Nutrition from Stanford University via Coursera.

Her core areas of expertise are motivational counselling, relationship guidance, clinical hypnotherapy, stress management, handwriting analysis, dream interpretation, meditative healing and psychological assessment. Her ambition is to break the stigma associated with psychological problems and bring awareness about mental health in India and outside.

Primarily, she practices clinical hypnotherapy and other psychotherapeutic modalities like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Cognitive Retraining & Supportive Therapy. Apart from these, she also performs Handwriting Analysis and Dream Interpretation. She has an expertise in making use of Graphology(Handwriting analysis) as a tool for Psychological assessment as she believes that one’s handwriting is the mirror to their subconscious mind and can help give a more clear picture of their personality.
She firmly believes in the healing power of psychotherapeutic and alternative healing practices and with less than 2 years of experience in the industry and hypnotherapy, she has already carved a place for herself with her clients.
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Wednesday, 28 September 2016

Is stress beating your heart-beat?

Mukesh 45, a successful business leader from one of the best management consultancies.  At first stance no one can find out how much stressed he was, a very calm and empathetic person, reasonably decent lifestyle. But he is not happy not at all, at home and at work, happiness is out of question !
Most of the clients (I don’t like calling them patients) enter our chamber are not stressed or anxious or depressed, but then why they do suffer....?
Answer is ‘Denial’!
One of the chief triggers for stress is ‘denial’,
This leads to confusion, inability to de-clutter, inability to prioritise, so of course it impacts your decision making capabilities.
Let’s understand denial first:
We stay in denial by not accepting our ‘job profile’.  We think it is stress, but it is the way our particular job needs us to do. Choosing attitude towards same job is all about wisdom.
We deny the gestation period and except perfect results prematurely.
We deny people management, we think being nice and kind to others is people management, no its not. People Management includes understanding people’s intentions, their potential, their limitations, their insecurities, their strength and their differences.
We deny self-awareness and Improvement.
We deny our own insecurities & limitations.
We deny reality of work-ecosystem.
Now take slow three deep breaths.
Inhale.......(positivity) pause.....and exhale ( negativity)...and repeat it.
Now accept that things are going to be like have to create a new perspective and new YOU.

Tuesday, 27 September 2016

Mental wellness: a wide-ranging Umbrella Approach

“Ragav* is a confident young man who has chosen a direction for his life now, deciding his “rights & wrongs” on his own and even helping the young buds at an NGO germinate and flourish. His students love their new teacher, giving him more and more self-assurance, poise and energy each day. 
Raghav was diagnosed with OCD and General Anxiety Disorder and was on medication for three months before coming to us.
He was trembling, quivering with fear and stammering when he came to us for the very first time. That petty incident of losing a wrestling match to another child, double his weight and size, happened at such a tender age of 10 that it left so many bruises and deep melancholies not on his body but on his heart and took away all his self-confidence and pride in just one moment. He could not manage to recollect himself and grow up well, those tarnished remarks of his family and society still haunted him making him go deeper into his shell as each day passed.  His own shattered pride bullied him more than anyone else. Apart from losing all his confidence and morale, that innocent soul started doubting his every decision and made him despise himself to the extent that he could not even look into the mirror or review his own work. Just that one string attached to his inner strength and hope brought him to us.”

We get early success by continuous three weeks wide-ranging umbrella therapy    by holding our clients’ hand with right nutrition, yoga & exercise, cognitive restructuring, mindfulness & conscious living, motivational counselling, behaviour therapy (making practical strategy for personal development) and more importantly by creating learning opportunity by art, dance, drama, and finally creating avenues where they can exhibit their potential and capabilities. ‘Value creation’ is most important piece of our therapy, a way of non-judgemental healing which identify hidden potential of our clients and help them to achieve their professional goals.
Visiting NGOs is part of our treatment. It helps our client to value their life and blessings and make them feel important by unconditional love of underprivileged children. They get motivated to add value in their life, and by this they start taking charge of their life.
Mental wellness is achievable! Ancient Indian culture has always been preventive in its approach. The very nature of our life is harmony & union between our Mind, Body & Soul.
To achieve this very simple & natural goal of internal peace and harmony we need to follow simple ways of living.
Mindfulness: It helps us to aware about self. Our body keep talking to us, we keep ignoring, and mindfulness is all about conscious living, improves decision making and happiness & emotional quotient.
Nutrition: Right ingredients not only make you uninviting for disease but improve your recovering potential too. Plenty of fluids and colourful fruit bowl & vegetables keep your pH balanced and nourish you with multiple antioxidants.
Cognitive restructuring:  you are shaped by your thoughts. We help our clients to think with many different perspectives, which help them to grow as better human being rather having a victimised mental structure.
Yoga, Breathing & Exercise: yoga is a way to achieve union of mind body soul. Right breathing exercises supplies brain food ‘oxygen’ in right amount.
Group Therapies:  Better social skills, high self esteem & confidence lowers anxiety and help patients to accept themselves and life as it is.
Volunteer assignments: they understands others suffering better than anyone, so though they take initiatives to help others, but somewhere they heal themselves.

But still, we have to walk miles for 3 As, Awareness, Acceptance and Advocacy. Healthcare professionals, Corporate & Organizations, Educational institutes, and NGOs have to walk together for creating local leadership for training & development.
 (*Name Changed)