Tuesday, 5 August 2014

Negotiating study time………Mamma! Bas five minutes mein…….

Negotiating study time………Mamma! Bas five minutes mein…….

Most of the mothers agree, their children finish their home work in five minutes, but making them sit for home work is a TASK! The moment they enter Kinder Garten, a little aversion from studies is noticed by so many mother….

Performance at school plays a very important role in child’s social and emotional life. We all love to have special attention and appreciation. Self acceptance is more important than grades.
Self esteem developed at childhood creates leader with no scars, one need not be a class topper to create a positive influence in society and lives.
Generally children avoid studies as
  • ·         They feel pressure because of the instructive tones and pitch of elders talking about study.
  • ·         They don’t like to sit with discipline
  • ·         Fear of not performing
  • ·         Running away from expected problems
  • ·         Fear of NOT understanding the concept
  • ·         There could be any specific learning difficulties, Dyslexia, Dyscalculia or learning disability.

How to address it:
How do you talk about studies?
  • Parents tone and pitch about home-work play an important role. If we sound pressured, kids start taking home work as a pressure.
  • ·         Make a specific study time when the child is less tired, early evening is preferably a good time.
  • ·         Call it ‘Study-Time’ or ‘Practice-time’ instead of home-work time.
  • ·         Judge your child’s mood, how much ready she is for study else motivate her.
  • ·         Remind about study time 15 mints prior.
  • ·         If child is tired, get her only a small portion of work at specific time.
  • ·         Make them sit again for pending work after sometime.
  • ·         Give appropriate appreciation and rewards.
  • ·         Nutritious diet
  • ·         Annual eye and ear check-up

Even if child get distracted and avoid study or even after putting extra efforts get her assess of any learning disability. Hyperactivity also adds troubles and child lose track with the flow. Specific reading or learning difficulties, dyslexia, dyscalculia may also play a role in it. Not all kids have Reading difficulties are dyslexic

Regular practice by special educator helps child to attain their study goals. And once they developed confidence in them by knowing how to learn they actually enhance problem solving approach.

Identifying interest area of child and using it as a learning tool for him helps a lot to achieve study goal

Blog is written by Dr Seema Rekha, Behaviour and Relationship Expert, a social psychologist, Founder Antarmanh Centre for Emotional Well Being, Director of Health & Wellness Women Energizers.
She is reachable at 9899762011, seema.rekha@antarmanh.com

Thursday, 31 July 2014

Managing Stress in Children

You are best at parenting,; You are raising your children, my attempt is just to help you out for not making mistakes unknowingly.
It hurts badly to see your child unhappy…..Children struggle in their own world , since infancy to preschooler they struggle to understand the world. After that they struggle to be understood.
There could be n number of reason behind their sad face. Teacher did not greeted back , child sit next seat has beautiful sharpener, two years senior home friends know more tables, uniforms irritate at waist…and many more..
In this article we're going to look at ways you can achieve the seemingly impossible and help your child unwind while still allowing them be a child.
Talk to Your Child
Try talking to your child why she is uncomfortable, if she /he is not able to express give them some options to express how are they feeling.
Sleep tips
Potentially the most important element with recharging your child's batteries is making sure they get enough sleep.
Research shows that lack of sleep can cause a variety of health issues and decrease academic performance in children. Research also shows that children with adequate sleep have longer attention spans.
Over stimulation is often a big cause for children having difficulties going to sleep. To reduce over stimulation before bedtime try the following:
·         no gadgets/ TV/computer games at least one hour before bedtime
·         no caffeinated drinks
·         no bright lights in the bedroom as it can trick your child's body melatonin (soft night-lights are fine)
·         introduce a relaxing bed-time routine-have 'quiet time' after a certain hour in the lead-up to bed-and read a bedtime story at the same time each night. A bed-time routine is vital for children as it teaches their bodies to start slowing down in preparation for sleep (there'll be times where you can't stick to the routine, so go easy on yourself).
Your stress is contagious
If you're like most parents you'll know that the lead up to bed-time—often called the witching-hour—is stressful.
By the time you've managed to get your child to have dinner, bathed, teeth brushed, read a story and got them off to sleep, it can often feel nothing short of a miracle.
It's important to monitor your own stress levels and care for yourself too. Why? Because children can pick up on, and feed off a parent's stress levels, thereby increasing theirs.
Before you're swamped with guilt, know that you've now been given a ticket to look after yourself, because it will in turn help your child. Things like exercise, yoga, meditation, reading and scrap-booking (without children) are some examples of great stress relievers for parents.
Unwinding strategies for children

Like adults, children can suffer from stress by trying to meet pressures associated with things like school, sport, music and/or dance lessons.
Therefore, doing tasks with no purpose or minimal expectation can be great for helping children unwind. Practising mindfulness is a great unwinding strategy.

The blog is written by Dr Seema Rekha, Founder Director Antarmanh Centre for Emotional Well Being
Director Health & Wellness Women Energizers